“Relationships stay with you wherever you go,” is a saying you may have heard before. There is so much truth to that statement, yet what is often not mentioned is the importance of maintaining relationships that matter to you. I like to make an assumption that in general, my network is willing to help (although that is not always the case). Nevertheless, let’s go through how you can ask your network for help the right way.

Choose the least intrusive delivery method

With so many methods of communication out there these days, choose the one that you know they prefer. For instance, if they are older, they will most likely prefer emails or phone calls. For the younger crowd, use Linkedin or send them a DM on Instagram.

Be direct

Get to the point and tell them what you are looking for help with. Don’t beat around the bush, but get straight to the chase.

Be respectful

People are really busy. Think about your own life right now and how much you have to do. Think about people with a family, stressful job, etc. and know this might not be the best time to help you out. At the end of your request, leave a sentence in there that gives them a way out such as, “…if not is not a good time I understand.”

Follow up once and move on

Wait about a week and if you haven’t heard back, just drop them a one sentence line such as, “just following up. Let me know if now is not a good time.” After the 2^nd message if you haven’t heard back, it’s time to move on.

Conclusion

Reaching out to your network can be scary as it can feel a bit vulnerable. However, it doesn’t have to be awkward at all. Be normal, be respectful, and be direct. If you can get past the fear of rejection, you’ll be surprised how much people are willing to help. If you know of any good tips of asking your network for help, drop a comment down below!